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Posted by on Mar 18, 2016 in Disability Dating, Disabled Dating, Disabled Singles |

Top FAQ’s About Dating For Disabled

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The dating scene often changes with changing time. We no longer wholly rely on the phone to get a message across. Some decades ago, all you had was a pen and a paper. The time taken for a letter to move from one part of the country to another was long –this is not including letters sent across continents. Much as there are new easier ways through which we can communicate and pass our love, there are challenges that must be dealt with.

As a person living with a disability, the challenges can seem humongous. Here are some Frequently Asked Questions (FAQS) and their answers. The answers are put across in a way to help a person living with a disability understand, cope and probably help them adapt to their current dating social environment.

1. I am a person suffering from a physical disability. Is there a chance of me dating a person who has no disability?

Many people living with a disability feel frustrated because a majority of ‘normal’ people perceive them as a liability if they were to interact with them. Matters of the heart are never to be taken at face value. People love others for the most subtle traits and others overlook physical appearance. The most important thing for you is to present yourself as a person who is fun to be with. Live a full life when single and a person with whom you share interests with will not see your disabilities but rather your exciting personality. Follow this advice and you succeed at dating with a disability without a problem.

2. Can you have sex?

Well, this is a question that will be avoided or toyed with for the first few dates. If you are the one who is not with a disability, never broach the topic – at least in the first few dates. Let the other person bring it up. You might ask the wrong question in the wrong way at the most inappropriate time. This is not a question that is asked but rather it’s a topic that is to be handled. So basically, it should never be a matter of a simple question and a ‘Yes or No’ answer.

3. What can you do?

A person will ask another this question not because they really want to know but as a challenge. In other words, it’s a sign of a patronizing person. Such off-cut questions often portray you as condescending, irresponsible with words and in some cases foolish. What one can or cannot do is not up to you to determine. Dating a person suffering from a disability can be hard if you are an insensitive one. If you have a disability and your date asks you the question, just shoot from the hip ‘I can do pretty much everything another person does’.

4. Should I tell the other person of my disability the first chance I get?

It depends with the kind of disability you have. You really cannot pretend to see when you are totally blind. There are some disabilities that can wait until you have known the other party well or in a better way. Bottom line answer to this question however is that, embrace who you are and be willing to talk about your disability with your date. But never make the whole date or relationship rotate around your disability. However, if you are seriously looking for romance, it would be ideal to register with a specialised disabled dating websites like Disability Dating Club, which has been established for many years now.

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Posted by on Mar 18, 2016 in Disability Dating, Disabled Dating, Disabled Singles |

3 Myths Of Free Disabled Dating Finally Shattered

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The dating scene has for the past many centuries transformed and adapted to the changing environments. We have moved from interracial and transgender dating yet we are considerably skeptical when it comes to dating someone with a physical disability. There are many negative assumptions and stereotype myths that have been persistent in our society for so long. This negativity has finally come to be perceived as the ‘truth’ by many people who have no facts about dating people with disabilities. Here are some of the leading myths which are demystified;

1. Sex life if any will be terrible

First of all, people who are perfectly normal often cry out loud of how miserable their sex lives are. The media has fed us the wrong information of how sex should be like. It is often displayed as an activity only for the physically athlete-like people. Contrary to this, sex is what two loving people share and it does not take a lot to understand that sex is all in the head. With a little imagination and wiliness, sex can be great with your partner irrespective of your physical condition.

In order to enjoy sex whether you are disabled or not, great communication must be in play. More often than not, lack of proper clear communication leads couples drifting apart and hence becoming incompatible sexually.

2. Your life will drag as you will be forced to take care of them

It is not hard to find many people looking at people with disabilities as people who are ‘damaged’. They will perceive them as though they are a bother for a ‘normal’ person and to get involved with them, you really need to sacrifice a lot. An important fact to soak in is that a majority of people with disabilities live full lives which are terrifically satisfying. They have great supportive families, rewarding and progressive careers and an amazing social network. Just like you hire something to do something that you are incapable of doing, a disabled person will do the same.

3. You will not be able to do fun things as a couple

The biggest worry for many people who perceive themselves as normal find people with disabilities as inhibited in countless ways. They will even be afraid to come into contact with these people because they think they might harm them more.

A disabled person may not be a great swimmer, they may not be great bicycle riders or football players but so are many other people who are ‘normal’. The one thing for a person who separates people into ‘normal’ and disabled is to know that for every successful normal doctor, politician, husband, teacher, wife, musician, actor or sailor, there is another one who is disabled and as successful. You only need to open your eyes to the world and realize that a person is not defined by their physical looks and prowess. Every person is different and they are what they are because of their personality, attitude and perception to life. Appreciating these facts makes disabled dating very easy.

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