The dating scene often changes with changing time. We no longer wholly rely on the phone to get a message across. Some decades ago, all you had was a pen and a paper. The time taken for a letter to move from one part of the country to another was long –this is not including letters sent across continents. Much as there are new easier ways through which we can communicate and pass our love, there are challenges that must be dealt with.
As a person living with a disability, the challenges can seem humongous. Here are some Frequently Asked Questions (FAQS) and their answers. The answers are put across in a way to help a person living with a disability understand, cope and probably help them adapt to their current dating social environment.
1. I am a person suffering from a physical disability. Is there a chance of me dating a person who has no disability?
Many people living with a disability feel frustrated because a majority of ‘normal’ people perceive them as a liability if they were to interact with them. Matters of the heart are never to be taken at face value. People love others for the most subtle traits and others overlook physical appearance. The most important thing for you is to present yourself as a person who is fun to be with. Live a full life when single and a person with whom you share interests with will not see your disabilities but rather your exciting personality. Follow this advice and you succeed at dating with a disability without a problem.
2. Can you have sex?
Well, this is a question that will be avoided or toyed with for the first few dates. If you are the one who is not with a disability, never broach the topic – at least in the first few dates. Let the other person bring it up. You might ask the wrong question in the wrong way at the most inappropriate time. This is not a question that is asked but rather it’s a topic that is to be handled. So basically, it should never be a matter of a simple question and a ‘Yes or No’ answer.
3. What can you do?
A person will ask another this question not because they really want to know but as a challenge. In other words, it’s a sign of a patronizing person. Such off-cut questions often portray you as condescending, irresponsible with words and in some cases foolish. What one can or cannot do is not up to you to determine. Dating a person suffering from a disability can be hard if you are an insensitive one. If you have a disability and your date asks you the question, just shoot from the hip ‘I can do pretty much everything another person does’.
4. Should I tell the other person of my disability the first chance I get?
It depends with the kind of disability you have. You really cannot pretend to see when you are totally blind. There are some disabilities that can wait until you have known the other party well or in a better way. Bottom line answer to this question however is that, embrace who you are and be willing to talk about your disability with your date. But never make the whole date or relationship rotate around your disability. However, if you are seriously looking for romance, it would be ideal to register with a specialised disabled dating websites like Disability Dating Club, which has been established for many years now.Read More