3 Tips For Online Dating When You Have A Disability
When you have a disability or chronic disease, the idea of dating can make you apprehensive. If you are ready to delve into the online dating scene, here are some tips to help you find the right person.
Don’t Limit Yourself
Although there are many niche dating sites, do not feel the need to limit yourself to dating sites specifically geared toward people with a disability or chronic disease. You may feel more comfortable with “selling” yourself on niche dating sites, which is fine. However, you drastically limit the number of people you are exposed to, which can limit your prospective matches.
Remember, just because a person does not have a disability or chronic illness does not mean they are unwilling to date someone who does. Branch out to increase your odds of finding the right person, with a genuinely good heart.
Be Honest In Your Profile
Your profile is the first snapshot prospective dates will have about you, and you want to include information that you feel people need to know. There are two schools of thought when it comes to issues relating to a disability or illness and when you should bring it up. Some people feel like you should wait until you have talked to a person for a while, whereas others feel like it should come up as soon as possible.
Although it can be uncomfortable and even hurtful if you bring up the topic with someone quickly and you receive a negative response, it is often better in the end. Your time is precious and you do not want to spend hours engaging with a person who would change their opinion about you just because of a disability or illness.
Your profile picture can be equally useful to show yourself in an honest way. If you use any type of assistive device, such as a walker or wheelchair, make it part of your profile picture.
Although you may want to crop out assistive devices or only take a picture of yourself from specific angles, this does not help when finding the right person. If someone does not want to date a person who needs mobility assistance, they can just pass by the profile without being offensive in conversation or abruptly stopping contact when they find out.
Follow Up In Conversation
Unfortunately, many people do not thoroughly read profiles and it is never wise to assume a person read what you have written. Make sure you follow up with details about yourself during your conversations. Often this will spur a person to go back and read your profile if they did not.
Do not be afraid to be candid about your concerns by asking them if they are okay with dating someone who has a disability or illness. There is little point to dance around the topic if it is something that makes you apprehensive about dating.
When you have a disability or chronic illness, online dating can seem impossible. Being honest and confident offers you the best chance of meeting a great person, with a heart of gold.